Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Feedback Strategies

The first article on feedback strategies, "Be a Mirror" by Gravity Goldberg (Source), was very explicit with its feedback strategies. The article began by mentioning the growth mindset that I wrote about last week! This make perfect sense to me- you develop your skills as you hear and respond to feedback in order to better yourself. The two tips presented in this article that seemed the most useful to me were "focus on what they are doing (not what is missing)" and "make sure your advice can transfer."
I know that when I give advice on any sort of writing I have a terrible habit of simply telling the person what they didn't do. I originally thought it was useful because then the person would know what they needed to add to improve their work. However, the first time I was given advice like this, it was something along the lines of "you don't have a conclusion" for a piece of writing I had clearly not finished. I knew that I did not have a conclusion. My peer telling me it was missing didn't make a difference. Since receiving that feedback, I've tried to ensure I don't give others that same sort of useless feedback.
"Making sure your advice can transfer" is a good tactic that I want to try to adopt. It tends to be much easier to give advice specific to what is being critiqued. Yet, telling the person how what they can do to improve this single paper in a way that can apply to things they write in the future seems like one of the easiest ways to ensure that they take that feedback to heart.

This article explains that advice should be treated like a mirror- focus on what is present in front of you

The second article, "How To Give Feedback Without Being a Jerk" by Adam Grant (Source), seemed to apply more to life in general than when you are specifically asked to give feedback. For example, when giving feedback to peers who have come to you to seek out feedback, there is no reason to ask if they want feedback- it would be silly. This article seemed to apply more to life as a part of an organization where you aren't necessarily in a position to give your boss and/or coworkers feedback.
I think the tip of "have a transparent dialogue, not a manipulative one" sounds fairly common sense but is hard to act on. For example, it will be easy to give feedback to a person I don't know through my laptop that serves as a form of protection. This doesn't work when needed to give advice in real life. Then different things complicate the situation- my emotions, their emotions, interactions we had earlier in the day, the power dynamic in terms of bosses and coworkers, etc. Telling people what they need to hear, rather than what they want to hear, is the only useful feedback.

Week 3 Story: Passing a Curse

Running late for class one windy afternoon in late October 2017, Timmy was panicked. He had spent weeks studying for the exam he was about to be late for. As the model of a perfect student, Timmy couldn't fathom that he had slept through his alarm. He'd barely put on shoes or a shirt as he stumbled from his apartment towards campus. As Timmy passed the Physical Science Center, a blast of wind hit him from behind. Off balance, he tripped over his untied shoes. Everything from Timmy's unzipped backpack spilled across the pavement. Papers flew everywhere. Already late for his exam, Timmy hurriedly grabbed everything he could find. Some papers had flown so far that Timmy knew he had no hope of gathering them. He snatched up his laptop, a handful of papers, and sprinted towards the Physical Science Center by the shortest route- directly under the clock tower.

Late to his exam, Timmy did the best he could. Despite his best efforts, Timmy struggled to remember anything. He could do little but stare at the exam, rub his sore knee he'd scraped on the pavement, and feel frustration build inside him. His weeks of studying had amounted to nothing! Timmy was devastated, but not surprised, when his professor returned his exam the following week. Timmy had just earned his first F! The model student didn't know what to do. Could he still graduate on time? Would he have to give up on his dream of becoming a doctor?

In the following weeks, Timmy's life fell apart. He failed exam after exam in each of his courses, regardless of his studying efforts. He dropped his laptop in a puddle that caused it to short-circuit. Due dates came and went without Timmy's knowing. The perfect student seemed destined to spend a fifth year at OU. It was only when Timmy recounted the many mishaps of his semester to his roommate that he learned of the curse of the clock tower.

"Walking underneath the clock tower means I won't graduate in four years?" Timmy cried. "I ran under it on my way to my exam! That's when I started having these problems!"

Timmy knew of only one person on campus capable of lifting curses- Baker Mayfield. Coincidentally, Timmy had tutored Baker in their beard growing class freshman year (yes, Timmy should be credited with Baker's ability to grow impressive facial hair). Baker had promised Timmy anything he wanted after Timmy's tutoring had carried Baker to a 4.0 semester.

Baker Mayfield, with his iconic beard, still owed Timmy a favor.

With no one else to turn to, Timmy called Baker. They agreed to meet near the clock tower under a full moon. Thus, the week before finals, Timmy met Baker, equipped with a football, as the full moon rose over the clock tower. Baker informed him that the curse could only be passed to others- it could not be broken- but Baker was willing to shoulder that burden for his pal Timmy to honor his debt. He instructed Timmy to moonwalk backwards under the clock tower and then catch the football Baker would throw him. Timmy had no choice but to follow Baker's orders if he wanted to graduate on time. Thus, Timmy, illuminated by only the full moon, moonwalked under the clock tower backwards. He looked up just in time to see the football Baker had thrown between the clock tower's pillars. Timmy caught the pass. He felt a weight lifted from his shoulders as the football in his hands became heavy like a weight. Timmy gave Baker a handshake, thanked him, and returned home to study for his finals the following week. That semester, Timmy managed to earn perfect grades, including extra credit, on every final he took. He passed every class that semester and was again on track to become a doctor.

Baker Mayfield returned home, football in hand, after lifting the curse from his pal Timmy. Knowing that he did not need to graduate to be successful in his career, Baker lay awake that night wondering how the curse of the clock tower would impact him when he seemed destined to win the Heisman Trophy. It was not until January that Baker learned how the curse would affect him- OU experienced a heart breaking loss to Georgia in the Rose Bowl. Rumor has it that Timmy's curse still haunts the OU football team to this day, ensuring they reach the College Football Playoffs, but preventing them from ever "graduating" to the National Championship.



Author's Note: This story is loosely based on the portions of the Ramayana that are titled "Manthara and Kaikeyi" and "Dasharatha's Karma." The main characters of these stories are Rama, the son of Dasharatha. As the king of Koshala, Dasharatha has three wives who have given him a total of four sons. Kaikeyi, one of those three wives, gave birth to Bharata, Rama's brother. At some point in the past, Kaikeyi saved Dasharatha's life and he swore to give her any two desires she has as a sign of appreciation. Additionally, Dasharatha once killed a hermit in the woods on accident. As a result, the hermit's father cursed Dasharatha "so wilt thou suffer in like manner, sorrowing for a dearly beloved and righteous son." Both of these events in Dasharatha's past are brought to the present when Kaikeyi asks Dasharatha to exile his beloved son Rama and instate Bharata, her son, as heir to the throne.
I wanted to capture the idea that the events of the past can prophesize or impact the events of the present. Here at the University of Oklahoma, we have a comparable story about walking underneath the clocktower that I used as inspiration. I combined that with the perceived curse the OU cannot win a CFB playoff game to create a story with mystical/prophetic elements that students could appreciate.


Bibliography:
"Dasharatha's Karma" from Indian Myth and Legend by Donald A. Mackenzie. Web Source.
"Manthara and Kaikeyi" from Indian Myth and Legend by Donald A. Mackenzie. Web Source.

Thursday, January 23, 2020

Reading Notes: PDE Ramayana Section B

"Viradha" by Manmatha Nath Dutt: Source

While in exile, Rama, Sita, and Lakshmana come across a rakshasa who is invulnerable to weapons. The monster kidnaps Sita to make her his wife. Rama saves her by shooting Viradha, the rakshasa, with his bow and arrow. They start to battle. Rama and Lakshmana prevail by breaking Viradha's arms at the shoulders, digging an enormous pit, and throwing Viradha inside the pit. Viradha states that it was prophesied that he would die at the hands of Rama and that his death would set him free from his monstrous form.

This seems to indicate that there is some semblance of redemption even for evil-doers when they die. Again we see that Rama is a great warrior, as his arrows injured Viradha, even after he claims that no weapons could harm him. I want to use the concept of some immensely powerful being that is simply outsmarted by the hero in my own story.



"Battle With Khara" by Donald A. Mackenzie: Source

Again, an insane epic battle is summarized by just a few short paragraphs. This must be either a cultural choice or a choice by the story tellers who did not want to create excessively long stories. While I personally think these epic battles should be more descriptive (he fought 14,000 demons, and it took one paragraph), I have to accept that this is how they are described. It's important because this means I won't have drawn out battles where the battle itself is the majority of the story.



"Shurpanakha and Ravana" by Frederika Richardson Macdonald: Source

This scene is so cool. I imagine this enormous demon stretched out nonchalantly on a giant throne. Although if this demon's bruised and bloodied sister came running to him, I doubt that sister would have such detailed and drawn-out conversation. Again, I perceive that as a cultural thing, as the main characters, especially Sita, are described vividly. I see two main aspects I can use- the description of an evil being like Ravana and the pattern of vivid description of the main characters.


Ravana, the King of Demons is described as the ultimate evil.



"Sita in Lanka" by Donald A. Mackenzie: Source

The idea of some sort of prophecy or curse directly only at those who act lustfully or attempt to make someone their bride is unique. It seems to raise the position of women who to this point are clearly believed to be inferior to men. This prophecy seems to level the playing field in some way. Maybe I could create some sort of specific curse like this?
I also appreciate that no being seems to be invincible. Gods, demons, princes, and various animals all seem to be capable of dying which keeps the reader interested- the story isn't predictable.

Reading Notes: PDE Ramayana Section A

"Rama: Avatar of Vishnu" by Donald A. Mackenzie: Source

Summary: Dasharatha, who rules over Koshala from the capital city of Ayodhya, sacrifices a series of animals in order to gain favor from the gods. He is promised four children among his three wives.
At this same time, Brahma had made Ravana invulnerable to demons, but this backfired. Ravana began to oppress other gods and ruin sacrifices. To combat Ravana, Vishnu chose to divide himself into four parts- a part for each of Dasharatha's sons- so that one day he may fight Ravana. The sons are born: Rama, Bharata, Lakshmana, and Shatrughna.

Notes: Gods in Indian culture can make mistakes, accept sacrifices, and make promises to humans. Additionally, they can split themselves into multiple pieces that I assume weakens them for the time but will ultimately make them stronger? This would make sense, as the four sons need time to grow up and become stronger themselves.


"Thataka" by Donald A. Mackenzie: Source

Summary: Rama and Lakshmana battle against a rakshasa. Even when it turns invisible, Rama is still able to shoot with his bow to kill the monster. Rama then gets celestial weapons that appear when he thinks of them. He needs them the next time a band of rakshasas attack, and Rama obliterates them.

The battles are not described in-depth as though the book is a movie. Rather, it says they fought and simply tells the outcome. That's pretty interesting. I wonder if this serves to discourage violence rather than glorify it?


"Rama Wins Sita" by Romesh Dutt: Source

Here we see the challenge proposed in any great story- do the one thing that no one else in the world has been able to do. Like the Sword in the Stone, Rama picks up the bow, pulls back the string, and snaps it with a loud thunder-like crash that lets everyone know the challenge has been completed. He's now promised Sita, who he knew he loved the moment he laid eyes on her.


"Manthara and Kaikeyi" by Donald A. Mackenzie: Source

Manthara hates Rama and convinces Kaikeyi, the mother of Bharata, that Bharata should rule rather than Rama. Knowing that Kaikeyi is still owed two promises because she at some time in the past saved the life of the king, Manthara convinces Kaikeyi to ask the king to make Bharata his heir and exile Rama.

This is like the trope of the evil-step mother. The good and obvious route is subverted due to the scheming of the evil step-mother character. I'll probably use this trope.


"Dasharatha's Karma" by Donald A. Mackenzie: Source

Dasharatha was cursed far back in his past when he accidentally killed a blind hermit's son. Left with no ability to care for himself, the hermit cursed the Dasharatha "so wilt thou suffer in like manner, sorrowing for a dearly beloved and righteous son." Just before Dasharatha dies, he thinks of this curse.

This reminds me of the trope of a genie or prophet where they say something that can be interpreted in a number of ways. When the truth occurs, the prophecy seems obvious, but it's not what the character expected- like Oedipus Rex. Creating some sort of fun/creative prophecy could be interesting in one of my own stories.


Dasharatha is cursed in a manner comparable to Oedipus Rex's prophecy

Wednesday, January 15, 2020

Feedback Thoughts

The first article I read was "Why rejection hurts so much- and what to do about it." I did not know that emotional pain can trigger the same response in the brain as physical pain. So being told something hurtful like "you're really bad at this. Just stop trying" is treated the same way as being punched! This article proposes the idea that because rejection is comparable to physical pain, insulting yourself or being upset with yourself only makes matters worse, as you are effectively harming yourself. Connecting with people to prove your self-worth to yourself is a much healthier response. Even telling yourself positive things about yourself that may be true in other aspects of your life can help.
Personally, I've come to accept that I am not perfect at everything. I may not be as physically strong as my buddy or have as much knowledge on a topic, but I know that I have strengths in areas my buddy does not. Recognizing those different strengths has helped me have a more positive outlook on life.

Being able to handle criticism and recognize your strengths can only make you stronger.

The second article, "How to Mentor a Perfectionist," highlights the fact that acting as a perfectionist is often valued by businesses in industry. This makes sense- mistakes can cost time and money, and admitting you don't know something could prevent you from earning raises or promotions down the road. Yet, there is a darker side to being a perfectionist. Perfectionists set personal standards too high and ceaselessly criticize themselves. Because of this, they try to prevent others from seeing their flaws, meaning they never have a chance to improve themselves based on peer feedback.
Trying to present myself as a perfectionist was really difficult when I was constantly changing schools during my middle school years. I thought it would make other people like me and help me fit in. Eventually I learned that it was just too hard to try to make others think I had no flaws. That realization made me a much better person. I stopped arguing with my parents. I made more friends. I had less stress over my school work.
I think of trying to be a perfectionist as carrying weights on your back all day, not because you want to, but because you want everyone else to think you are strong. It's simply not worth it.



Topic Brainstorm for the Future Project

Potential topics for my project include:

Vali, King of Monkeys: Source

When looking at the comics earlier this week, this a character that stuck with me. King of Monkeys is such a cool title. I've also liked monkeys since I was a small child. I found that Vali is in part of the Ramayana. Thus, I will learn more about his as the semester goes on. I hope to learn what sort of powers Vali, as my understanding is that he is not a god. I know almost nothing else about Vali. I'm excited to learn how he is related to other gods and people in the Ramayana, and how he is inevitably beheaded (I am predicting this based on the sheer number of gods and people that seem to die by beheading). I imagine that I would write a story about his birth, any great battle he has, and likely his death as well.


Weapons of the Gods: Source

All great weapons have memorable names. King Arthur has Excalibur. Arya from Game of Thrones has Needle. Thor has Mjolnir or Stormbreaker. These weapons make those who wield them even more memorable, as the weapon can often be used only by that individual. This project would likely find the most destructive and violent gods and people from Indian epics and tell a stories about each character's great prowess in battle. I could also imagine a project made with Twine that allows the reader to choose a single weapon from a list and go on adventures with it. I cannot currently name any iconic weapon from Indian epics, though I would be more than willing to learn about them.

Does this art not make you want to read about a great battle?


Reincarnation: Source

With this project, I could dive deeper into a belief that has no comparison in my own religion. I have little knowledge on the topic, meaning that I could learn a great amount from this topic. I could follow a well-known, existing character, or attempt to create my own, and tell a story from the same character's point of view each time they are reincarnated as various animals or people. I would have to do much more research about the rules of reincarnation and beliefs surrounding it, but I could see this being a rewarding project. Even better, Vali is believed to have been reincarnated, so perhaps I could combine the two topics.


Brothers: Source

With two brothers of mine own, I understand that the relationship between brothers is complicated. Because brothers play a role in each of the major epics we read this semester, I do not feel that this would be a difficult topic. I would aim to show that one's brother can be someone's greatest enemy, teacher, and friend through different stories. I would want to re-tell stories from one brother's point of view to try to show that brotherhood can be a complex mix of emotions. Somehow, this also gives me the opportunity to write about Vali (monkeys, like brothers, are just awesome).

Week 2 Story: Too Much Kindness

A young man found himself on hard times. He had no friends, no home, and no job. With no one else to turn to, the young man found himself searching for his only living relative- his kind, wrinkled grandmother. The young man had not seen his grandmother in over a decade. He worried that she may not recognize the man he had grown-up to be. With his unshaven face and ragged clothes, the young man feared that his grandmother would not welcome him with open arms. Yet, the young man, in this rough patch of his life, felt that he had no option but to find his grandmother so he could get back on his feet.

He asked around town of his grandmother. One day, as he sat on the street corner asking for money, he overheard his family's name in the conversation of two strangers walking by.

The young man leapt up with excitement and cried, "That is me! That is my family! Do you know my grandmother?"

The startled passerby answered, "The only living member of that family lives in the next town down the road at the top of the biggest hill in the town. Surely, you can't be related to that kind old woman?"

The young man did not respond, as he had already started running down the dirt road out of his town. He did not stop running until he reached the next town. He found his way to the biggest hill in the town and ran up to the only house at the top of hill. The young man had never seen such an amazing building. He saw a grand courtyard full of all kinds of flowers and a fountain. Beyond that stood a shining white three-story building complete with columns, statues, and wrinkled old woman standing in the doorway. The young man ran to the old woman and explained that he was her grandson. The kind woman recognized her family immediately and accepted him into her home. 

The kind woman's gardenSource

The young man was given every luxury he could have desired- fresh food cooked for him, a soft bed, even money! The young man was so thankful. He promised his grandmother that he would be back on his own feet within the month. He went to sleep that night and, unfamiliar with comfortable sleeping conditions, he slept for a whole week! Upon awaking, he lost himself in the beauty of his grandmother’s flowers, the relaxing noises of her fountain, and the taste of her delicious food. The young man did not leave his grandmother’s home for a single moment all month.

At the end of the month, the kind old woman explained that the young man could continue to live with her if he needed it. However, she was too old to return to work, and he was eating into her life savings. If the young man stayed too long, the old woman would also find herself on hard times. The young man told the kind woman he would again find work by the end of the month and get back on his feet.

Another month passed. The young man had begun to eat more food, sleep more, and put on weight. It was considered a good day if the kind grandmother did not have to feed the young man in his bed. Again, the grandmother reminded her grandson that she could not support his for long. Again, the young, now round, man promised to find work by the end of the month.

The month came and went with the young man again making no progress. On the morning of the last day of the month, the kind grandmother told the young man that she could support him no longer despite their bond as family. The young man was outraged. He leapt from his bed and accused his kind grandmother of not caring about him. He reminded her that he was living on the street with no friends, no home, and no job before she took him in.

“How could you want me to return to that?” the young man cried.

“I don’t want you to find yourself on hard times,” the kind old woman answered. “Yet, I don’t want to find myself on hard times either.”

The kind woman told the young man he had until the end of the day to leave her home because she could no longer support him. The young man told his grandmother he would be gone by the end of the day. The end of the day came and went. The young man fell asleep in his bed, ignoring the sobs of his grandmother in the next room.

The young man awoke the next morning to rain falling on his face. He slowly opened his eyes to see that no roof covered his head. No blanket covered his body. No bed was underneath him. There was no food made for him. He awoke on the same streets he once slept on in his own town.

The dirt road the the man awoke on.

Rather than lie in the dirt with the rain splashing in puddles around him, the young man returned to the spot of the wise old woman’s home. Everything was intact. His grandmother still lived there, seemingly as rich as before. Yet, she no longer recognized him, as though something had erased her memory. She did not welcome him into her home. Rather, the old woman asked the young man to leave.

The young man knew he had wasted his chance to get back on his feet. He should never have taken advantage of someone who was only trying to help.



Author's Note: 
Reading the Jatakas for this week, I saw that each story was trying to teach a lesson. The majority of these stories used animals as their medium. I chose not to follow this route because I felt the lesson to be learned is more easily understood if the story is about humans. I liked the lesson of the "Crane and Crab" story where the crane's downfall was his own trickery. I attempted to take that sort of teaching moment and apply a slightly different lesson.

Bibliography. "The Cunning Crane and the Crab" from The Giant Crab, and Other Tales from Old India by W. H. D. Rouse. Web Source.